Parenting Clash: At-Home Discussion Guide

Almost all parents have some sort of clash(es) between ideas and experiences when it comes to parenting.

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These questions have been constructed by Nicole Reid, a therapist who specializes in relationships within the family formation years, to help you thoughtfully uncover insights, goals, and areas of change within your parenting partnership.

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Use this guide to answer each question individually and then discuss together.

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1. Where have you learned about parenting (i.e. your own caregivers, articles, books, religion, social media, friends etc.)?

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2. What about your own upbringing would you like to carry forward into your parenting approach?

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3. What about your own upbringing would you like to leave out of your parenting approach?

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4. Is there anything you have learned from other sources (i.e. friends, books, articles, etc.) that you would like to incorporate into your parenting approach?

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5. What are some instances where it has been the hardest to stay calm with your child while parenting? Why do you think this is?

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6. What are instances where it has been the hardest to stay calm with your partner while parenting? Why do you think this is?

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7. How do you think you and your spouse are doing in terms of parenting together?

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8. Where do you imagine you and your spouse will (or already are) clash the most in terms of implementing parenting ideas?

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9. What could you and your partner each do to help decrease parenting clashes and work towards implementing the same parenting goals?

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10. When your kids are adults living out of the house, what do you want them to remember about how you and your spouse parented together?